Christian Dating Sites – Are They Even Necessary?

christiandatingOnline dating is not a new phenomenon. Well, I guess that all depends on your frame of reference. I doubt the Department of Defense individuals that first utilized networked computers were doing any e-dating on the side, but as far as a prominent business, it has existed for several years.

I’m sure everyone has seen an e-Harmony television commercial or any of the millions of banner ads online for everything from,,, and every other crowd you can think of. The point it — it’s prolific. The one niche that I’ve noticed in greater numbers recently, is Christian dating sites. I don’t know if this is because there are more of them or because I am just noticing them more.

I really have two thoughts on them. 1) Good for them. The internet has really opened the world up for people to connect with others that they otherwise never may have met in their lives. 2) Are you effing kidding me? Christians exist in such massive numbers in this country, it surely can’t be hard to meet others. I live in a college town in Alabama, where the cup runneth over with Christians, and with all the meetings of Campus Crusade for Christ, Reformed University Fellowship, Baptist Student Union, Navigators, Beta Upsilon Chi (Brothers Under Christ), Baptist Campus Ministries, Chi Alpha Christian Fellowship, Christian Student Center, Fellowship of Catholic University Students (FOCUS), Ministries in Action, Encounter, Students for Life, and the Wesley Foundation, you’d think they’d have plenty of opportunities to find a mate.

By the way, that list is in no way exhaustive as there are many more campus and local organizations affiliated with individual churches and sects. There are a plethora of opportunities to find similarly brainwashed people just in a small college town in Alabama. Surely it is similar elsewhere, if not just in the Bible Belt.

If anyone needs help with dating in my town, it’s atheists, gays, and Muslims. And if you are all three, you are screwed (though not literally).

Maybe I’ve interpreted this all wrongly. Maybe it is difficult for Christians to find someone else who shares their same twisted, literal interpretation of an ancient, contradictory text.

Anyway, the CALL TO ACTION! I’m sure on your travels around the interwebs you’ve encountered particularly humorous postings or profiles on Facebook, MySpace, or dating sites that are of the Christian-seeking-Christian type. There are too many sites out there for me to browse, so if you’ve ever bookmarked a particularly ridiculous specimen, please share it here!

I leave you with a small excerpt taken from a Christian singles group on Facebook. This girl had written this massive treatise on how guys pursue their prospective Christian mates. It was quite nauseating, and for your courtesy, I have pared it down to just a taste of what was written. You can easily find more on the thousands of Christian Facebook groups.

I had a guy friend, or two, tell me that I should be flattered that men liked me. That’s when it hit me: there was some serious miscommunication going on. I didn’t feel flattered! I felt worthless. I felt like a trendy dress hanging up in Forever 21, next to the other exact replicas of me in different colors. Yes– Those clothes are cute; but they aren’t special by any means. I am hand made by a God who isn’t into trends. So, where is it? Where does a man’s intention of treating a girl right, turn into treating her like a mass produced clothing item? I believe I have found it. It’s in the pursuit.

Barf. No wonder you’re single.

4 thoughts on “Christian Dating Sites – Are They Even Necessary?

  1. Hello there. I’m a lonely atheist in a small college town in Alabama. Montevallo is a fine arts school. You would think there would be more atheists in this area. But hey it is Alabama, the most conservative state in the US.

  2. The problem with most religious Christians and dating is they always seem to want to skip the dating part. They are always, “Looking for a mate, someone to create a family with.” At least, that’s what I hear all the time. There are a few problems with this, though:

    1) When you first meet someone there is no way to know for quite some time if he/she is a suitable partner for you. We put on our best faces and try to impress, not exactly natural.

    2) First dates are hard enough without the pressure that this may be the first day of never flying solo again.

    3) Babies do not make a family. A couple IS a family from the moment they make any commitment to each other. There is no need to get ahead of where you are in a relationship, in fact, it can be quite detrimental. Especially if you end up with fertility issues or other problems, having that expectation of what’s next can be extra-crushing.

    4) If your faith does not allow for pre-marital sex, you have the added fun of crazy hormones confusing the crap out of your brain until you take actual legal vows. SCARY!

    With all this pressure, usually pushed onto people by religious doctrine (“Go forth and multiply…” and so on), it’s hard to imagine how they EVER end up with a partner. Therefore, they must meet a LOT of people before they find someone with the right level of issues put on by their religion. So, sometimes they need a wider web than their local communities, and that’s where these Christian dating sites do fulfill a need.

    Plus, it helps you avoid the gossips that fill every religious group I’ve ever encountered until you are ready to introduce your new significant other. lol

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